How we talk about what we talk about matters profoundly
We often take talking for granted. Yet, talking is a social practice that is essential to our day-to-day functioning, and it can be one of the most dangerous or transformative things we do
We are all living under the influence of social trauma, and the impact has created social conditions that break, betray or deny our inherent need for safety, belonging and dignity. With the continued pandemic and the very visible racial and social challenges, many of us are finding ourselves traversing uncharted relational waters, leaving us feeling disconnected and dysregulated.
We each have a biologically-based need for connection. . . from that perspective, the impact that trauma and stress has had on our professional and personal relationships can be described as a chronic disruption of connectedness (Porges, 2014). This disconnection is experienced both in how we talk about what we talk about with one another.
THREE OVERARCHING GOALS
Our relationships have tremendous impact on communication and nearly every aspect of life. I believe healing is justice and I journey with you to create practices that support transformational change. There are three overarching goals of my work:
Establish safety and learn how to hold space to have difficult conversations;
Increase capacity and develop neuro-resilience or what I call 'neuro-muscle' to name relational injuries and harmful practices, policies and structures; and,
Develop practices that heal relationships and create space to normalize justice-centered dialogue.
Safety is the foundation of healing and of healthy relationships. Through a neuroscience lens, participants will be introduced to the many ways that safety is compromised by trauma and chronic stress and why we must reimagine our understanding of safety and its fundamental role in relationships, in the workplace, classroom, and in the home. Safety is intrinsic to our being human, and through the lens of neuroscience, we explore a more expansive, nuanced understanding. The basics of embodied safety are introduced, practiced and integrated into every aspect of my work.
Unpacking Trauma & Chronic Stress
Trauma lives in the body and compromises our ability to feel safe in our own skin and safely engage with others. When we do not feel safe, we move into survival mode and can shift into fight/flight and defensiveness or shut down and disconnection. We first define and unpack social trauma and then introduce its physiological and emotional components through the lens of neuroscience.